Living a Successful Life
Living a Successful Life
Having an analysis over the lives of different successful people and various success stories reveals that although, journey towards the success is a combination of a plenty of different factors but a few of them are very common. Various factors depend upon the approach of an individual but those factors which are very common in nature are quite obvious demanding no argument. In fact, those are like a base or you may call them pre-requisites to the success. So, as a building cannot be established without the base similarly you are not able to start a journey towards success without getting yourself equipped with these components.
Realizing the Importance of Life
The first and foremost ingredient of the recipe of success is the realization about the importance of life. Realizing about the importance of something does matter a lot. If you are going to realize the importance of an event, then definitely you are going to struggle for that. For example, if you are enrolled in a degree course and you are well familiar with the fact that on completion of the degree you are going to get a reasonable job and a respectable image in the society, definitely you will work hard to achieve that objective. Similarly, a team entering the ground representing a country is not only to play there but to be a source of respect and honor for the respective country by winning the contest. In the same way, thousands of examples can be quoted in this regard.
Same is the case with realizing the worth of life. Life is not merely spending your days and night in an ordinary fashion and waste your time in a random way without planning the events of your life. It is all about fixing your priorities, developing a framework and schedule of activities and finally executing the plans in an efficient way. It also known as program planning. When you actually realize the truth about your existence then you are ready to move forward in a right direction. There is another element associated with the realization of the worth of life is giving value to the available time. Being thankful for the available moments and doing something important not only for you but people around you is possible only when you are going to realize the importance of time.
An Example of a Young Boy
An example is worthy to be quoted in this regard. Once there was a young boy having an age of 22 years. In spite of being young and having a lot of energy, he was not living a positive or purposeful life. Rather, he was busy in criminal activities most of the times. His father had died and his mother was quite worried about the future of her only son. She tried her best to put her son on track but all her efforts failed to bring about a positive result. Finally, she heard about a renowned astrologist. She took her son to the astrologist and presented the whole case in front of him. She was very worried about the future of her son that is why she asked the same question from the astrologist. She requested him to predict the future of her son after telling the whole scenario to the astrologist. First, he kept on silence. The mother was getting more worried over his expressions. While breaking his silence, he said “Are you ready to hear the truth. Do you have such a brave heart that you could be told any truth”? She replied in yes. The astrologist predicted that her son is going to die. He has a time of seven days to live more. It was an astonishing prediction for both the mother and the son as well.
Enriched with a natural spirit of love, the mother was crying and totally depressed after knowing that her son is going to die after seven days. Her son was also depressed. And of course, he must be. When you are going to know about the reality that after some days you are about to die, what will be your response and feelings? Perhaps, at this time you are not ready to even think about it. Just imagine what will be the situation of that young man. Anyhow, time was passing. He could not sleep the very first night after knowing the fact. He started thinking about his past life. While making an analysis, he realized that he had not done something special during the whole life so far. There was no positive contribution from his side. Rather, he had been teasing the people since long. He had been behaving like a rascal. Now, he was feeling ashamed for all he had done in the past. He was sorry for what he did to her mother. He thought people would blame her mother for all his wrong deeds after his death. He wanted to apologize those people he had teased once. Although, list was lengthy yet he decided to begin. He started apologizing the victims of his wrath and ignorance one by one. Finally, he visited and apologized all those names mentioned on the list. Now, he was able to sleep with comfort when he had apologized his victims. Now he had no fear in his heart and mind. Time was passing quickly and finally, it came the last night for him to live. He was ready to die while on other hand, his mother was crying and waiting for her son to die as it was predicted by the astrologist.
The young man went to sleep thinking that he will never get rise again. He got rise three different times during the night thinking that he had died. But, all the three times he realized he was alive. He was worried and confused and finally, the sun had risen the next morning. He was very confused and took no time to reach the astrologist. He requested him to do something for the confusion he was suffering from at that time. He said to the astrologist “when I was not ready to die, you told me that I would get died. Now, I am ready to die and death seems nowhere. Your prediction was wrong.”. The astrologist replied that my prediction was 100% correct. Because at this time when you are sitting in front of me you are a new person. Now you are an ashamed man feeling regretful for your sins. First, you were not even bothering about that. Congratulations for a new life and new journey.
The example is a true example of the fact that realization about the value of the available time is a great source pushing you and motivating you in a positive way. So, why you should wait for a tragedy or another source of motivation. Just make a rule of your life to be grateful for each moment of life and try to do positive things. Life is a great blessing and each and every day is very valuable without any discrimination. Now it depends upon you that how you behave and utilize this available time and manage to do positive deeds before it’s too late. Realizing that life is a worthy source to positively contribute in a society and time is very precious makes you capable of not only managing your time but also bring about some positive outcome.
Realizing your Potential as an Individual
Drop joins another drop and eventually, it turns into a sea. Individuality has an importance in itself. Either you are a family member, member of a society, member of a country, member of a playing team or a part of an organization; your individuality does matter a lot without any argument. Never forget that individuals join each other to become a nation. When we pass some positive remarks about a nation it means individuals of that nation are actually receiving praising remarks from us. In fact, behavior of those individuals and their approach on an individual basis is finally depicted on a broader spectrum that we call a nation. Having a desire for success demands you to realize about your personal potential and value of your individuality. You must be very sure about the fact that members or citizens of a nation are not going to be successful until or unless they are not going to realize the potential and importance in their individual capacity.
Similarly, if you are working in an organization and you are assigned a specific task on your end. Now, task done by you on an individual basis is leading towards the success of the whole organization. You are not an only member, the organization assigned a task to complete. Rather, each and every individual of an organization is assigned a different duty. When all the members complete the work on their ends individually, finally it results in the success of an organization. If a single member of an organization is not going to work in an efficient way, he will become responsible for providing damage to the whole organization. Another example can be quoted here that surrounds performance of all the players in a football or a cricket team. Victory is always a result of a team-work. Put aside the exceptional cases when only a few players or an individual player becomes responsible for the victory of a team. Exceptional cases are not a routine. Thus, success is universally associated with the efficient team-work. If your cricket or football team is equipped with some extraordinary players and still your team is going to lose then must be thinking about the fact and importance of teamwork. As much as there is flaw in the contribution or performance of individuals, the team get on a distance from the success.
Supremacy of an Individual
While working in an organization, there is a key feature need to be focused that each and every individual must be given an equal value. Boss of an organization sitting in the office, man force of the organization including the laborers drivers and guards are all important. Remember that an association, organization or institute you are associated with, is represented by the individuals.
Let me explain it with an example. Suppose that you are a good student belonging to an educational institute. Now, wherever you go, whatever you do, how you perform is all going to affect the reputation of the institute. Either you perform well in curricular or extra-curricular activities, you are going to directly affect the institute, you belong with. The story is not going to end here. Even, during your professional life, while serving against a specific post, your performance and working efficiency will be going to affect the reputation of your institute at that time too. Similarly, bad performance of an individual may result in humiliation for the whole organization. So, each and every student need to be polished well so that he could contribute in establishing a good reputation of the institute. Same is the case with an organization. Giving equal value to each and every individual will result in an exemplary collaboration that is responsible for the success of an organization.
Any discrimination made on the basis of scale or status may force the individuals to destroy the image of an organization. So, make it a key rule that team-work and equal importance given to each and every member of a group, organization or institute will ultimately level the way towards the success. If there will be no discrimination among the people working in an organization, definitely there will be a positive and collaborative environment that is necessary for an organization to develop and flourish with consistency. It was about institutions and organizations for the purpose of making your concepts quite clear about the fact. When it comes about the representation of the nations’ globally, same criterion is followed there. Perhaps, at that time you are going to represent your country or nation at a wider spectrum and comparatively vast platform. It doesn’t matter who you are, the fact of the matter is that you are the representative of your country. You may be a visitor, student, worker, an employee or even resident of another country but your attitude, working efficiency, dealing with the people and way of living is directly going to affect the image of your country in one or another way. So, there is need to train and develop our individuals. It is only possible when we are going to admit the supremacy of the individuals.
Wasting your EGO into a Dustbin
Believe or not, your ego is one of the major barrier that prevents you from getting successful. Surprisingly, you keep your ego very dear to you in most of the cases. Don’t you think that keeping the enemies like this so dear to you is ridiculous approach? Why don’t you put the ego aside and move forward freely? Remember, ego is your worst enemy. Until you are not going to tackle this enemy, you are not going to be a successful person. It will be a surprising thing to know about the fact. Questions may be rising in your minds that how the ego is going to play the role of a barrier on the way leading to success? It may not directly influence you but indirect or silence attack by the ego is more severe and quite damaging. Ego may lead you towards jealousy, pride, comparison and competition in a negative sense.
Suppose you are the owner of a motor-bike while your neighbor has a car. Apparently, it does not make any difference. Let him drive his car and enjoy your ride on the motorbike. But, your ego gets involved in the matter. Now, it has two different perspectives. The person driving a car may feel superior to the person driving the motor-bike. On the other hand, the person having a motor-bike may feel jealous to the person who has a beautiful car. So, both of them are going to waste their energies in a negative direction. One is feeling superior just because of a minor cause and other one is feeling jealous for no reason. Apparently, it seems normal but in fact, such mentality is going to affect you in the long run. Rather than wasting your energies and getting depressed and jealous, you may go for planning and executing in an impressive way. It may result in failure for the very first time but you will become successful eventually.
Similarly, ego stops you from doing something of your own choice and wish. You are going to plan something according to your own position and compatibility. You are very confident about execution of your plan but suddenly you get disappointed and decide not to go for your plan. Do you realize, what actually stops you? Yes, it is your ego that you keep very dear to you. What people will think about it? This is not the plan for me rather I should go for something more valuable, people will criticize me and list goes on. These are the gifts awarded us by the so-called ego. The story is not going to end here. The ego; a very dear friend of you is going to spoil you on many other platforms. It will lead towards a useless comparison and negative competitions. Someone is enjoying a luxurious life and you are going through a tough time. In the situation like this, rather than thinking about that person of getting deprived from the luxuries of life why don’t you go for discovering the fact behind his success? Making a useless comparison will merely spoil your mental efficiency rather, thinking about the matter positively may result in betterment for you. It is quite possible that by following the principles of a successful life you may become a successful person someday. But, in the other case you are just going to make yourself depressed and useless. So, why don’t you go for the recipe including the positive ingredients to taste a successful dish?
Setting the Criteria for Your Happiness
Being positive is a key component or ingredient for getting happy. Moreover, happiness is responsible for letting you move forward effectively until you are going to achieve your objectives. There is another factor involved in this regard is about fixing your priorities. Happiness depends upon the criterion you have already selected. For example, if your set standard for happiness is getting 60% marks and you get that. Definitely, it will result into happiness for you. On the other hand, there may be another person who have set a standard of getting more than 90% marks. Now, even getting 90% marks will not make him happy because his set standard of happiness is getting more than 90% marks. Similarly, another example can be quoted in this regard. There is a person working in an organization and hopeful for getting 5% increment the next month. The day comes when he is to receive the salary. He gets surprised by noticing that he was just expecting 5% increment while he is about to get 10% increment. Apparently, it looks normal but it has a great impact psychologically. By increased percentage of his increment, his standard of happiness also gets raised. Next time he will not be thinking for 5% increment rather he will be thinking for at least 10% percent. Even, he will be doubtful about 10% by considering a possibility of 15% increment as it happened to be the previous time. You may raise the question that what positivity has to do with this. Positivity is all about enjoying the little happiness and sources of minor delightfulness. For example, rather than depending upon the set standards of happiness why don’t you go for getting delighted over what you have? Why don’t you bother for getting maximum and try not to get happy for a minor benefit? You are not always so lucky to get maximum profit in a consistent way. So you need to develop a sense of satisfaction and happiness even after getting a minor happiness it will change your attitude and finally, you will become an efficient worker with a happy and peaceful mind. While following the opposite track will not give you any reward rather than the frustration and depression.
Thinking Positive
Thinking positive will also lead us to avoid useless criticism just for the sake of criticism over others. Criticism is no doubt, a source of flourishment and progress in a true direction but it must be positive. Positive criticism is not going to get generated on itself but a positive attitude and positive thinking results into positive criticism. So, moving on the way toward success you need to bother about this. Positive thinking is your weapon that you are going to use in terms of getting your objectives fulfilled and become successful.
Positivity also makes you passionate. Definitely, when you will be optimistic rather than being pessimist, chances of your reach to success will automatically get increased. People plan in their life but fail to execute their plans just because they are pessimist and positivity stands far away from them making them an average rather than a successful person. Thinking in a negative way sometimes misleads you. Negative thinking has a direct impact on creativity or deep analysis. A positive thinker has more areas to get explored while negative thinking leads you to think in a narrow fashion. So, preference depends upon you either you go for positive thinking or negative approach. An example can be quoted in this regard. Once, there was a wife and husband living in an apartment. There was another apartment in front of theirs. The wife had a habit of standing in front of the window and criticizing the habits of the family living in the opposite apartment. For example, she used to criticize about the laundry. She was of the view that the family living in the opposite department doesn’t have an idea or awareness about how to clean the clothes in an efficient way. She kept on repeating the criticism for many times and finally, a day came when she went to her husband telling him, “Look! They heard my voice. They realized that I wanted them to clean the clothes efficiently and today, I am successful in making them realize and they get their clothes cleaned in an efficient way.” Her husband smiled at her by telling, there was nothing like this and it was all about her perception. He had cleaned the window glass that morning and it was the only reason for everything to be appeared clean and clear in front his wife. Just imagine, negative thinking and useless criticism of his wife got her deprived of even thinking from different perspective.
Motivation Acts as a Fertilizer
Motivation has the value of a nutrient and fertilizer for a human mind and body to grow. For example, you join a gym and go there regularly. There is only one motivation behind that. Yes, you guess accurately, weight loss and muscles development is the motivation behind the habit of going to the gym. Similarly, getting enrolled in an educational institute and working hard is also result of a motivation. Motivation to learn, excel, getting trained becoming a good professional and successful person.
There is another very important point worthy to mention. Schools are just like the nurseries. You need to grow a healthy nursery for getting extraordinary yield. Although, teachers deserve appreciation for their contributions but some of the areas still needed to be covered. Motivation has a great connection with the success. You cannot even imagine that even a single word of appreciation and motivation can make a person successful for the whole life. While, in the same way, a single word resulting in discouragement of a person may stop him reaching the success throughout his life. It is claimed that 100% children are born genius but society turn them to average just by passing their arguments. Even, parents are found saying that our children are not capable of doing this so it is better for him to do something else. Who we are to suggest, dictate or predict that which field of study or career suits a person best. Why don’t we let the relevant person think and decide freely where to go? Especially, when people are young they are full of energy and enthusiasm. That is the time not to discourage and criticize them. Instead, it is the actual time to motivate and guide them so that they could get successful in achieving the objectives in their life with a great efficiency. Keep in mind, discouraging remarks at this stage may turn a genius to an average man.
On the other hand, there is also a piece of advice for the courageous and enthusiastic persons not to listen the discouraging remarks. People are not capable or responsible for turning your dreams into the reality but a courageous man himself is. Don’t look for the remarks of people and don’t wait for their motivation. If you are confident that you are going to contribute positively, then plan your program and execute it in an efficient way. Taking a practical risk for positive purpose is much better than dreaming for the whole life or discussing your ideas on a table. There is another golden piece of advice that keeping on searching for the excellence is another important component of success. Making efforts for a limited time is not the way to become successful but keep on searching for excellence with more enthusiasm is the actual way to become successful. Perhaps, this is the routine to be followed until you die.
