10 SIGNS YOU’RE SABOTAGING YOUR OWN LIFE

It’s easy to blame others and circumstances for why you aren’t successful or happy in life, but the truth is it’s your actions that determine these things. Here are ten ways you might be sabotaging your own life.

You neglect your health

Good health is vital to your life. If you don’t take care of yourself, you are risking numerous consequences. If you are neglecting your health, you may find that you’re tired often and carrying more weight than you’d like. It’s time to begin eating well and exercising. If you’ve been living a sedentary lifestyle for a while, it will be hard to break that habit and get active, but it’s not impossible. Start by going for short walks after dinner. Extend those walks each week. You’ll find that you not improve your energy levels, but your mood as well. If you haven’t had a checkup in few years, make sure schedule that. By improving your health you will be happier and more motivation to go after your goals.

2. You stay in a job that makes you unhappy

You have to work, but don’t have to stay at a job that doesn’t fulfill you forever. If you’re unhappy at your job, use your free time to look for a new job. It’s unlikely the perfect job will fall into your lap. If you want to future your education, look into night or weekend courses that fit into your schedule. Never quit a job until you have another one to take its place, but don’t let current job make you so complacent that you stop looking for something better. You can be grateful to have a job without feeling obligated to stay in it forever.

3. You keep toxic people in your life

If you surround yourself with people who whine, complain, gossip, and try to crush your dreams, you won’t have a successful and happy life. You will be drained of energy and your good mood will be ruined. You’ve probably experienced this before. Someone will text you or call you and you immediately feel anxious or in bad moos. This is clear sign that the person is toxic in your life. You cannot feel guilty about removing these people from your life, by doing so you will no longer have the stress they bring in your life. You will also have space to bring happier, more optimistic into your life.

4. You don’t experience anything new

Life can become busy and routine, but that’s exactly why you should make sure you take time to get out and explore the world around you. When was the last time you tired something new? You don’t have to travel to do and see new things. You’d be surprised how many things there are close to home you haven’t you seen. You can take day trips or weekend’s trips if you can’t afford to travel far from home. If you’ve never eaten Chinese food, try it. If you’ve never been on a boat, figure out way to get yourself on one. There is always something to try and see. By staying in your comfort zone you are holding yourself back from all that life has to offer you. If you don’t leave your comfort zone, you might not see solutions to problems you need.

5. You procrastinate

If you procrastinate in any area of your life, you are sabotaging yourself. You have the ability to improve your life now. You can either choose to take it or not. If you want to be healthier, decide that you will eat something healthy for your next snack or meal. If you want to start a business, take one step everyday that will get you closer to doing that. There is nothing you form stopping from starting today except your decisions to put it off until tomorrow, the New Year, or your birthday.

6. Try to make everyone else happy

This is a form of self sabotage. It’s important that you make yourself happy before you worry about if someone else is happy. If you are dating someone new and they don’t like your running schedule because it takes you away from texting them or seeing them when it suits them, you should not change your schedule or stop sunning completely. Now and then compromise is needed from both parties, but you should never stop doing something you love to accommodate someone else. You can’t successfully make everyone else happy without sacrificing your own happiness.

7. Your goals aren’t your own

If someone else has decided what you should be doing in your life. You probably aren’t going to be motivated to succeed. If you want to be successful, you must decide what you want for your life. Your parents might be pushing you to be an engineer when you hate numbers and use your fingers to count. You spouse might think you’d make a wonderful teacher and offers to pay for your education. None of these things matter unless the goals set is what you want. You won’t work hard for things you don’t want. Ditch the goals that aren’t your own and decide what you truly the goals that aren’t your own and decide what you truly want.

8. You’re lazy

If you’re lazy, it will be hard for you to achieve any kind of success, maybe you’re always tired, but you could be feeling the effects of a sedentary lifestyle. If you spend most of your time sitting for work, and then come home and lounge on the couch all evening, you’re being sedentary. Exercise is crucial for your success. Start each morning with a workout, a walk, or a run. Starting everyday with activity will set the tone for your day. If you lounge in bed and playing on your phone for an hour when you wake up, this is not setting yourself up for your success. If you’re not used to being active, it will be struggle to begin with. Begin waking up 30 minutes earlier to give yourself the time to workout. You will get your body moving and release feel good hormones that will set you up for a productive day.

9. You give up

Achieving a goal requires tenacity. You’re going to face obstacles no matter what your goal is, so if you want something, you have to stop quitting. You’re going to have frustrating moments, but don’t let them slow you down. Find ways to overcome them. Ask for help if you need to. Asking for help is something we all need to do at some point and there should be no shame in it.

10. You’re surrounded be negativity

If you have friends who are constantly complaining and think nothing good ever happens, this can be a factor holding you back from success. You might not realize how other people’s negativity can affect your life. If you find your energy drained and your mood ruined after spending time with certain people, it’s time to distance yourself from them. You can be the most optimistic people, but if down. To be successful, you must choose your company wisely. Spend your time with people who are happy, positive, and supportive of your goals. These types of people will lift you up and inspire you.